Idea better than Reality!

“The idea of you is better than you in reality”… My wife blurted out in one of the many exasperating moments she had in my month-long garden leave. Whilst I could write about how I still manage to have a happy married life after starting with such a statement, pacifying your wife and managing marital…

Nation – a people collective…

So what are the biggest complains you have with your government? I asked my Singaporean colleagues out of genuine curiosity. I view Singapore as a fantastic place to live with the government having provided state of the art facilities… and so somewhere in my guts I was expecting them to respond like the princess sleeping over 40 mattresses…

Helpless & Guilty…

I recently read an article on depression amongst the wives of US H1B holders who were on H4 visa and could not work… Thousands of very well qualified women whose dreams of doing something in life the way they wanted to, has gone down the gutters… Ironically in the place where people go to chase…

Main kar sakti hain…

To keep the confidence that you can do it when you are ridiculed by your family constantly of your failures in life… To do that in face of belittling of your small achievements by your loved ones… When you can say ‘mereko na har cheez main mazza ata hai’… Even when there are hundreds of…

#NotReallyMyCause

“It saddens me that you do not support this”… a dear friend blurted out in agony when she asked my views on a recent trending topic… For a moment, just out of affection for my friend, my mind was about to give up, please her sensibilities and spin a story on how I was deeply…

Emotional Amnesia…

Vaibhav, like many other such events, you don’t remember the seriousness and the pain that incident in our life caused… My wife accused me whilst having a discussion on a difficult situation that someone else was going through… She never forgets to use this emotional amnesia that I am supposedly having atleast once in a…

Home???

I recently made a trip to India… It made me rethink… Where is home… My wife and kids are in Singapore… All my personal effects are in Singapore… But my parents and sibling would be in India… I own my property in India… My closest friends and relatives are in India… Where is home??? I…

Insecurities…

It was 1 am in the night and after a lot of discussion… my wife gave me a revelation… If your spouse or loved one spoke too highly of someone too many times or was spending too much time with someone of your gender… What would be the first question about that person that would…

Coaching a child – or yourself?

I was just talking to a dad of my son’s friend in a birthday party where we both had to kill sometime… The topic veered for no reason (like it usually is in such situations) towards how the kids were getting to school… I told him that we took the bus even though we are…

Urdu Couplets :)

Mohabbat-e-ishq ka karz kabool hai… Hamari saasen hum asal, Na chuka paye to wafat kabool hai…… (Love’s loan I accept… my breath is the collateral, If I cannot repay, death I accept…) Raah jannat ki hai ya qayamat ki, kashmakash us ki nahi… Iztiraar hai unke sukoon ki, justajoo mohabbat ki nahi…… (Whether the road is…

Earth’s Parasites…

Sitting on a nice Singapore beach, i was thinking how this fisherman town has transformed… And my thoughts wandered and tread upon the fact how so many big cities and human population had grown by extraction from the seas and the land… And I googled something to find this: an organism which lives in or…

Challenges – Happiness and Growth

Humans define their self worth partly in their achievements and partly in acceptance of their achievements by others… Achievement nevertheless is the key… And the size of it is determined by the size and severity of obstacle they represent… They are subjective and different for each human… Bigger the hurdle, higher is the intensity of…